School rule - no phones.
School rule - no phones in school.
School meeting - please don't get your high school child a phone.
Most parents of the class - buying their kids phones.
am I the difficult parent here??
These are probably the reasons parents are buying their high school teens their own phones:
Parents want their kids to be accepted, cool, with it.
They are powerless to say no.
They need a very enticing motivational prize/gift/incentive to get their difficult teens to cooperate about....things.
My favorite: They Deserve It.
For doing their homework? Handing in assignments? Not fighting with their younger siblings?
I am a parent who has bought things or done things with her children because I feel they've earned it. I understand our innate parental desire to give, give, give to our children. Been there, done that.
But if a school has a rule about not having phones, if EVERY RAV AND MECHANECH AND MENAHEL AND PRINCIPAL AND LEADER IN OUR ORTHODOX WORLD has told us how bad it is for kids to have unfiltered access to phones, unlimited texting, unlimited picture taking/receiving ability, why are parents blatantly ignoring the words of our leaders??
Many of you who know me personally (and I am beginning to think that is all who is reading this, because almost no one comments, and I know the few who do) know that I am not one to run and automatically embrace every thing I hear, all the time. But the non stop pleading of teachers, principals, leaders, rabbonim, of how bad it is out there for our kids, made worse by having phones, makes me wonder- really. Why are parents choosing the desire of a 15 year old over sensibility? Wisdom? Words from those "in the field" - school, community, shul leaders?
please - your comments. especially you lurkers who never speak up. we have an epidemic - now's your time to say your piece